Thursday, April 9, 2009

"Maundy Thursday"; ...time for a few good cries...

Joyce Roe, friend and mentor died yesterday. She was the wife of my mentor in Boy Scouts and Youth Ministry: Tom Roe. (I've written about him here before.)

Joyce was always there for me and my kids. (She was always there or everyone...) Nothing made her happier than to have you sit down in her kitchen and let her whip something up for you. She made us homemade treats like fresh applesauce created right before our very eyes!

She never failed to send a card with a note for every holiday. When I found out yesterday I had to sit down where I was. (That happened to be in a chair at the coffee bar at work.) Joyce died of complications due to pneumonia. Her heart failed. (particularly poignant for me as Mom has suffered from both...) Cry number one.

I've been reading "Lion of Ireland" and as it happens, Brian (according to Llewellyn's account) died on Holy Friday. I had just finished reading about his death and having cry number two when Sarah brought in the mail. Todays mail contained an Easter Card with a letter and an invitation from Joyce to come and visit. I have next week off and had already planned to stop in as a surprise.... Cry number three.

Tonight I went to "Maundy Thursday" service. Every year (Cheryl H.) a former member of the Youth Ministries Team sings "Were you there?" at the end of the Upper-room Service and we leave in silence.

...after crying mind you. Cheryl gets me every time. A good cry! ...number four.

We will miss you Joyce. Save us a spot at the kitchen table. We promise we'll have a seat and "bring our healthy appetites" along with us!




  1. Hi Mark,
    Sorry for your loss...and others' loss of Joyce. I know what it's like to have a "good" cry. Sometimes people leave us "good" deaths....ones that soften and open us up, keep us vulnerable and new. Catherine

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  3. Scoutmaster Ray Ginter of Voorheesville Troop 73 BSA sent this to me:

    Joyce Ann Roe

    April 08, 2009


    Joyce Ann (Ingraham) Roe, 84, of Shrewsbury Crossing died Wed. April 8 in UMASS Medical Center.

    Her husband Thomas W. Roe died in 2004. She was the devoted mother to Wayne T. Roe and his wife Debra of Bethesda, MD, Glenn T. Roe and his wife Nancy of Loudonville, NY and Diane C. Haarmonn and her husband Carl of West Boylston. She also leaves three grandchildren, Alexander, Kathryn and Jennifer Roe. Her first husband Levi Moak, predeceased her in 1950. She was born in Albany, NY daughter of Everett and Elizabeth (Caldicott) Ingraham, grew up in Clarksville, NY and then lived in Voorheesville, NY for over 50 years of her life. She was active in the First Methodist Church and the Boys Scouts in Voorheesville, NY. Joyce was a wonderful cook.

    A Memorial Service will be held Sat. April 18 at 10:30AM in FAY BROTHERS FUNERAL HOME, 1 West Boylston St. West Boylston. Burial will be private. In lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made to the Activities Department at Shrewsbury Crossing, 311 Main St., Shrewsbury, 01545. To place an on-line condolence, please visit,

  4. I just heard that there will be a service here at the First United Methodist Church of Voorheesville on Sunday the 19th @ 1:00 p.m.
    Donations in her memory may be made to Voorheesville N.Y. Troop 73.